Two Households, One Team

Hello Readers! 

Do you find co-parenting easy with your ex? Or rather, quite challenging? Do you find yourself in a never-ending tug-of-war fight to get your kids the parenting support the deserve?

Co-Parenting - 
koh-pair-uh nt
Noun: a divorced or separated parent who shares equally with the other parent in the custody and care of a child.

Verb: to share equally with another parent in the care of (a child).

Regardless of your specific circumstances, whether you are divorced, dating, or remarried, most parent's number 1 priority is the well being of their child. Some of us will go to no end to ensure our children have everything they need and more. 

So what if you are more than willing to co-parent, but your ex is not. Maybe they don't want to compromise, or make the sacrifices sometimes necessary to make the best decision for your child. What do you do then? 

From my experiences, you continue to put your child's needs in front of your own. You put aside your differences with your ex and you put the need your child has of having their own relationship with both of their parents first. You kill your ex with the utmost of kindness. You keep the parental conversations just that, conversations between the parents. 

Whether it is the lack of financial support, or simply the way you cannot see eye-to-eye with your ex...your child should only ever witness contentment between the two of you. The worst thing that could ever come from any divorce, is having the child pulled into the middle of your unforgiving arguments, or conversations, or personal jealousy feuds.

You, as the parent, as the adult, must understand these boundaries. Telling your children your ex's dirty little secrets from when you were together and oh-so in love, ultimately do not play in your favor, rather could play against you later. And it certainly plays in no favor of your child. 

You should allow your child to build their own relationships with their other parent. It is not the child's fault that you two could not make things work out. They were simply an innocent bystander brought into this world under the love that once was. Though your children are raised in two households, wouldn't it be nice to feel like one team? 

It's your turn to share with me! Comment below, Email subscribe on the right, tell me your experience with co-parenting!